I know that you are not supposed to compare your husband to your father, but I have been the last couple of days. I don't remember my young years when Mom and Dad and I were moving around a lot, but I've been told that we moved tonnes. We never really settled down until we moved to the Yukon Territory in 1989. My parents at that point had been married for almost 12 years and I was almost 11 years old. Here comes some comparisons.
1. DH and I have been married for 8 years. We have moved a gazillion times. See this post.
2. DH and I have 6 children. M&D (Mom and Dad) had 4.
3. DH has had numerous jobs - not only different employers but different kinds of jobs too. M&D had many employers (not sure on the different jobs part).
4. Despite all this moving around, I was well taken care of by M&D. And I am well taken care of now.
5. I remember being told of employee / employer complications in D's work life. And, boy oh boy, have we had trouble with employers!!!
So, I'm beginning to think that it takes about 10 years of adult life, of trying to do it on your own, cutting the apron strings, etc to really settle down in a relationship and in a life together. It doesn't matter about the number of kids or the experiences life throws at you or things like that. It just takes time to learn the ropes. I love looking back and seeing how we've changed and are growing. And comparing my life with my parents to life with my man. Not in a way that defeats us but in a growing and contemplative kind of way.
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