Allowing my man to lead

Learning to allow my man to lead has been a fairly long process. I have felt for a very long time that although my man has a strong relationship with God, he was not leading our family. What I've finally learned is that I need to allow him to be the leader that God has created him to be. Some leaders are strong and "out there"; you see them. My dh is not that type of leader. My dh is a "behind-the-scenes", quiet (sometimes silent) leader.

There is not a lot of Bible reading and leading that goes on in our home. We don't have family devotions or pray together. My dh is growing and changing slowly as we'd both like to see more of those things in our family, but God seems to take his time with J. Kind of like, if God gives him too much at once, J will throw it all out. And God uses my obedience to His Word to help that process along What does that look like for me? Quiet obedience, respectful suggestion and simple example. If I bully and nag and barge in where I'm not wanted or needed, it doesn't work. I've learned to allow God to work on J. I've learned that God has a different role and method of leadership for J to follow and use.

And then I had a light bulb moment in church yesterday. The speaker's understanding of Matthew 25:40 is to include not only Christians but non-believers as well. Very quietly dh says to me, "John 1:12 tells us how to become children of God, therefore I do not believe Matthew 25:40 includes non-believers." The speaker was reading from a very different version and I had my NIV with me and I don't like either really. I plan to go and compare versions - dig out a KJV or a NKJV. The point I am trying to make is I finally have seen the little, quiet ways that dh directs and teaches me. He instigates me to further educate myself on the scriptures to see for myself what God says in His Word.

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Matthew 25:40 NIV --- "The King will reply, 'I tell you the truth, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers of mine, you did for me.'

Matthew 25:40 KJV --- And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me.

John 1:12 NIV --- Yet to all who received him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God—

John 1:12 KJV --- But as many as received him, to them gave he power to become the sons of God, even to them that believe on his name:

In order to be a brother to Christ we need to be a son of God. Only those who receive God's gift of salvation are God's children, therefore Matthew 25:40 doesn't include non-believers.